While watching a documentary last night I came across the saying, “I accept myself unconditionally, right now.”
How many times have you said, I’ll feel better when I lose ten pounds, or I’ll finally be someone when I get published?
Putting terms on self worth is damaging and destructive. Self doubt starts to get the upper hand, and inevitable we fail, because we do not recognize the areas in our life that we are succeeding in.
I am a big believer in mind over matter and that visualization can help us get from where we are to where we want to be.
The women in the film suggested that people say the line, “I accept myself unconditionally, right now,” at least twice a day while looking at themselves in the mirror.
I used to do something similar to this and I hung pictures of positive images or things that made me happy near my closet. It was like a little pick me up in the morning and got my day started on the right foot.
The woman did say that when people try to create positive change that a first negative thoughts might follow, but eventually they will give way to positive ones. It was equated to developing muscle memory. Creating a new habit takes time, and forgiveness when you fall short.
I was so struck by the idea to love myself “Right Now” because I tend to get caught up in the person I want to be and never pay much attention to the person I am right now.
I am very goal driven, and it seems like I am always working towards something. I tend to lose sight of my recent accomplishments and I can see now how that is damaging to me.
If you can look past your own flaws and love yourself for you then it would make sense that you would be more accepting of others.
Recently on Facebook there has been a trend of people posting and nominating others for the gratitude challenge. Maybe we should start highlighting the things that we love about ourselves. I bet if we did we would get a positive reaction from others and maybe even a few extra positive comments too.
Self love, such a simple concept, but it really does start from within.